Queer and gay I’d say have been completely reclaimed.

really depends on the community. “Queer” (particularly pluralized) is still used as a slur in the Midwest and Deep South of the US. I got called “gay” as as an unironic expletive literally two days ago online. “fake and gay” is a current 4chan meme.

I want to note I didn’t implement this and have no power over it but I do find it kind of shocking since opening an account here how often people use the b-word online casually and I do not think most of them are women.

I’m guessing you mean how often you infer people trying to use the b-word here, since it’s redacted? but what do you mean “casually?” casual could have two meanings, e.g.

A. “she’s such an uptight [b-word]”

B. “sorry for being such a [b-word] earlier”

casual use of language like A would be shocking. usage like B I don’t find shocking at all. again, maybe it’s a cultural/generational difference, but B doesn’t really feel sexist in most uses - it’s semantically bleached.

an illustrative example of semantic bleaching is the term “raw-dogging.” this used to rather graphically refer to having unprotected penetrative sex. however among gen z it’s more commonly used to mean undergoing an experience without the comfort of any conveniences, e.g.

“my headphones broke so I had to rawdog the whole flight to London 💀”

“bro rawdogged the whole exam without a calculator”

It’s as commonly abused as it is “reclaimed”, in a male-dominated space like this it’s more abused than reclaimed.

maybe my experience is different because again, as a woman, I hang out less in male-dominated spaces. but I imagine this varies from instance to instance. like, blahaj.zone is probably pretty safe from sexist use of the b-word by the nature of its members.

I wonder if you might make an exception for the b-word, per the case I’ve made here? https://lemmy.ml/comment/17736838

I honestly haven’t heard the b-word used much as an intentionally sexist slur outside of like, 4chan. I (female) say it to my female friends pretty casually. even when I hear it used as a curse word (usually as -ing), it doesn’t come across as a slur. for example, I hear it applied to men with roughly equal frequency as women. it’s also pretty reclaimed (“she’s a badass b-word.”)

maybe could try taking it out, and maybe put it back if people are using it in a sexist way? (though hopefully sexists are disciplined rather than just having a single word in a sexist diatribe censored.)

I can see removing the r-word. I can kinda see removing the f-word, but it is being reclaimed by some (my ex, for example.) the b-word seems overkill. it’s commonly reclaimed, used in many different contexts, and part of common non-slur phrases. examples:

• “I’m a basic [b-word] when it comes to fashion” (the context I saw that inspired me to ask.
• “I’m that [b-word]. Been that [b-word], still that [b-word].” (lyrics to Savage by Megan Thee Stallion.)
• “[b-word] please.” (I, a woman, say this to my female friends. I hear it way more between women than from men tbh.)
• “We’re best [b-word]s, remember?” (Julia and her friend from Brakebills in the Magicians.)

yes, it can be used as a sexist slur, but “queer” and “gay” can too. language is nuanced, regexes are not.

Isn’t jfx still actually using HTML and CSS, though? like it’s cool that the UI logic is in Java, but doesn’t using CSS mean you still need to lug a rendering engine around, even if not a whole browser?

Java (and Object Pascal, I’m assuming) have very old-looking UIs. Discord’s gonna have trouble attracting users if their client looks like a billing system from 2005. Also, what do you do about the web client? Implement the UI once in HTML/CSS/JS, and again in JForms?

So if you’re picking one UI to make cross-platform, and you need a web client, do you pick JForms and make it work on the web? or React and make it work on desktop?

seems reasonable, thanks for your work!