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  • Ok, but what type of autistic?

    My brother and I are different types. He’s super genius, and it’s not Savantism. Crazy good physicist, but awkward.

    My daughter is yet another. Smart, not like my brother but not an idiot. Absolutely all of hers is wrapped up in communicative and emotional disorders, with some associated tics and traits. She has to learn social interactions the hard way and still lives my mimic frequently.

    I’m the one that was able to read body language absurdly accurately, to the point of fault and often pissing other folks of as I had no idea why they said something when it was absolutely false… This combined with a nearly faultless audio sense of memory (not eidetic) got my into frequent trouble with people getting mad at me not got arguing, but for always being right.

    So I ask… Who exactly did they stick under the microscope here? I’m not bitching; I really want there to be more and better research here, but I’m skeptical of most that wraps up things in so neat a headline or category. What variations of spectrum? Did they compensate for more societal assumptions and myths than has been the history here?

    The paper itself lists a highly limiting scope, with effectively a bias that would have eliminated all 3 of us from consideration for various reasons. Instead, they are polling data from effectively a group that in glance looks like a socially acceptable grouping, leaving out a huge block that have any metal illness diagnosis based on 2013 DSM… A joke in itself here.

    I appreciate that they are trying to look at an early development baseline to see what forms differently at crucial 1-4 year ages and then watching confirmed formation changes in later life. My concern is that ruling out what at a glance is a huge sampling purely on assumption that “mental illness” and a few of the other limits they imposed have boxed them into the old single flavor diagnosis again.









  • You are still removing others rights over a hypothetical. It doesn’t miss this, it directly focuses on the point of blame. Punish the parents for exposing their kids. Irresponsibility is not excuse for harm… If a parent leaves hardcore porn laying around for a child to find and harm occurs, don’t punish the uninvolved adult up the street.

    Another form of media doesn’t magically absolve parents from parental responsibility. Stop trying to play the “poor adults have no control over their kids!” Card.

    The “but think of the children!!!” trope is tired and over abused to remove rights and privacy. Move along.


  • How about less “control everyone else” and more “control your own damn kids”.

    My daughter didn’t get unsupervised access until she proved responsible enough to trust. I want to say around 13.

    Just because “I grew up with it unsupervised and it ruined me” doesn’t immediately equal “everyone will have this experience”. Sorry your parents didn’t understand what you were doing. Sorry you saw stuff that bothered you. Don’t punish everyone else for it.

    I’m far from a helicopter parent… Instead, my kid has come to me for help in resolving uncomfortable or problematic interactions. We’ve always been clear and honest about why we’ve asked her to avoid certain things. Even when it made us uncomfortable. Especially then.

    She’s 20 now. Most cheerful kid I’ve ever met. No idea how that happened directly, but I know I can trust her.