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  • Yo man, love is not what you thought it was, and this is a part of it. It’s very normal for stuff like that to come up when a child is born. It’s common to find yourself in ruts where you don’t feel attracted to one another. Most of all, it’s super fucking healthy to talk about it and not just pretend like everything is great.

    Best advice is that you, her, and the two of you as a couple all get in therapy. Talking with people about this stuff is what helps that settle the dust after that flashbang.

    My therapist would say “yeah, you’re not going to be wild about each other all the time without MDMA or cocaine. And it wouldn’t be healthy. This is healthy.”

    If she’s shutting down when you suggest mental health support for her, suggest it for her for you. She might not think she needs it but you two are a dyadic unit. You live together, her her mental health affects you both, just as yours affects her.


  • Yeah the Thall style is an interesting subgenre. Think djent but spooky instead of angry? Lol that’s the best I got.

    Nah, who am I kidding: similar to djent with a kind of one-liner-comedian delivery of a dynamic range of riffs, interspersed with rhythmic candy, the thing that makes THALL stand out to me is a lot more playing with microtonal bends (which create a spooky aura). I would say a band like Veil Of Maya kind of represents the beginning of a shift into the existence of the genre… Vildjharta made the subtle variation that VoM brought sometimes, their whole thing.

    Others followed but I’m old so idk much beyond them.

    And if I am not describing HLB and Vildjharta right now, I don’t know what I’m doing 😁




  • foggy@lemmy.worldtoMetal@lemmy.worldWhat's currently the "biggest" metal band?
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    What do you mean by biggest? And what do you mean by metal?

    Gojira just played the fuckin Olympics… They’re probably the biggest metal band of all time by some metric at the moment. Like a higher percentage of households have now heard Gojiras music than Metallicas music. Wild.

    Last year Sleep Token and Lorna Shore was all anyone was talking about.

    Tim Henson is the first guitar god we’ve had since…idk Tosin Abasi? Alexi Laiho? But his band Polyphia is not exactly heavy.

    Djent and Thall have kinda came and went, but there was Vildhjarta and Humanity’s last breath for Thall, and Animals As Leaders and Periphery for Djent.

    I’m sure Spotify has a different opinion than Billboard or record sales, etc.







    1. Between The Buried and Me - Colors

    2. Mr. Bungle - California

    3. Opeth - Blackwater Park

    4. Porcupine Tree - In Absentia

    5. The Dear Hunter - Act III

    6. The Dear Hunter - Act II

    7. Eyedea & Abilities - First Born

    8. Porcupine Tree - Fear of a Blank Planet

    9. The Ocean - Pelagial

    10. Sleep Token - This Place Will Become Your Tomb

    Edit: I didn’t realize this was a metal community post. I just responded for my all time top 10.

    If I am focusing on metal, I remove dear hunter, porcupine tree, bungle, and sleep token.

    I add both Necrophagist albums, Nobembre’s ‘Everasia’, Animals as leaders self-titled, Opeth’s Still Life, and At The Gates slaughter of the soul…

    1. Between The Buried and Me - Colors (2007) [Progressive Metalcore]

    2. Opeth - Blackwater Park (2001) [Progressive Death Metal]

    3. Necrophagist - Epitaph (2004) [Technical Death Metal]

    4. Novembre - Everasia (2002) [Progressive Death/Doom Metal]

    5. Necrophagist - Onset of Putrefaction (1999) [Technical Death Metal]

    6. The Ocean - Pelagial (2013) [Progressive Metal]

    7. Animals as Leaders - Self-titled (2009) [Progressive Metal/Djent]

    8. Opeth - Still Life (1999) [Progressive Death Metal]

    9. At The Gates - Slaughter of the Soul (1995) [Melodic Death Metal]

    10. Darkest Hour - Deliver Us (2007) [Melodic Death Metal/Metalcore]