Just for my own education, if you don’t mind - how were you able to tell someone was hammering on the port if it was closed? Would fail2ban have been an option to stop them?

What if I want a bunch of people to be able to log into my library via Finamp?

Haha okay, thanks! And I’d just forward ports 80 and 443 from the router to ports 80 and 443 on the Pi’s internal IP address in the router settings, right?

My preference would be to avoid Tailscale, but I’ll check it out. Thanks!

I have not. What is it?

Thanks for the tip! I’ll back the refresh rate off to be safe.

I’m not sure I entirely understand your concern about putting Jellyfin on the internet. A large part of my interest in selfhosting is being able host my own music library, my own cloud storage, etc, and access it as an alternative to Spotify or Google Drive. Doesn’t that inherently mean that they need to be on the internet, if I want to be able to access them when I’m away from home?

My goal has been to find a way to do that safely, but if that’s not possible, that’s good to know too, so I don’t keep trying to do the impossible.

I’d like to be able to share it with friends and family

Correct. I’d like to make it available to myself and any family members or friends I share it with, but not the wider world

Oh, the healthy paranoia isn’t the issue haha

I just want to be able to figure out how to configure my system to be able to safely expose a single service for my use away from home. Because I’d like to eventually expand from Jellyfin to Nextcloud and Vaultwarden as well, but I know I’m not there yet

Thank you! What is the most beginner-friendly way to do that?

I’ve been trying to figure this all out for so long, but it feels like every time I overturn one stone I discover there’s another setting or program I need to configure that I didn’t know about

Oh, that makes sense, I suppose.

Why is that?

Knowing when to set boundaries and sticking to them is not one of my strong suits, admittedly. But it’s something I’m working on.

How do you know when to set a boundary? How do you enforce it without feeling like an asshole?

It’s funny, but I feel like I strive to be kind because I’m aware of how the world really works. Like, I’ve been let down by reality and know the world can be a nightmare already, so why would I want to pile even more on someone and make their life harder, you know?

I’m a fan of the line from Ted Lasso: be curious, not judgmental. I try approach things from the perspective of “how can we solve this problem”, since I don’t see any good in finger pointing. You can’t change the past.

I’ll admit, I am a people pleaser at times, but it’s something I’ve worked on - identifying the line when I start to be too much of a pushover.

Thank you 😊

I actually was very into Buddhism a few years ago. I had a better meditation practice then, and I did a lot of reading, some on metta, but moreso insight. I don’t think I’d consider myself a Buddhist, but they have a lot of good ideas!