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They’ve mellowed out a bit and I can see them a few times a year, but we’ll never be close. It’s very odd seeing my girlfriend’s family be so close with each other, especially as they tend to get loud and argumentative, but still like each other a lot. It just confuses my brain.
Me and my brother are close though, and I have some good friends and a great girlfriend, so I have the family I want in a way. It’s not the same, but I make it work.
Now I work in a factory because I never felt I had the capacity to aim for anything
Having no motivation is still my biggest drag on myself. I still don’t feel I deserve things, and I feel I’ve lost a lot of the ability to really even want things, so if I can’t set goals or have desires, it’s hard to find that ambition. I used to have lots of dreams, but my parents pushed them out of me. My life now is…fine…but I don’t know if it will ever be what young and innocent me would have wanted for me.
Furthermore, the prevalence of physical abuse halved from about 20% among those born between 1950 and 1979 to 10% among participants born in or after 2000. However, for verbal abuse, the prevalence increased from 12% among those born before 1950 to about 20% among those born in 2000 or later.
“Any gains made in reducing physical abuse risk being undone by rising rates of verbal abuse. We must act now to confront the lasting harm caused by cruel, critical or controlling language. We need to build children up – not knock them down. The mental health of the next generation and our shared future depend on it.”
Both my parents were physically and mentally abusive. When I was around 16, I was too big for my mom to hurt me much, and I was almost on par with my dad, so them being physically violent was reduced, as it started to be consequential for them. Nothing ever stopped them from being cruel, manipulative, or spiteful to me.
I think it’s a lot easier to justify to one’s self that you aren’t abusing someone when you aren’t physically hurting them. They’re “just words” after all. But when I wasn’t being hit, it was mostly over. It still sucked that I knew I couldn’t trust them, but without active physical assault, not much is going on. But when you tear into a person’s conscious and subconscious, I always thought that stuff keeps hurting long after the action is done. I remember just a handful of times I was hurt physically really bad, but some of the hate and insults from 20-30 years ago still have effects on me from time to time.
I got help for my depression a few years back now, and have largely moved on, but what was done to me absolutely has left lifelong issues for me. All you others in this thread that have been through similar, I hope you’re all at least doing alright today. None of us deserved what we got taken out on us.
I really loved getting to visit Alcatraz a few years back. I hadn’t known about the Occupation, and that was one of the surprise highlights of visiting.
It’s a hauntingly beautiful place now as a wildlife sanctuary, and it felt empowering to see a place used for cruelty returned to a place of peace and knowledge.
I’d hate to know anyone who would prefer it to be in it’s former state again. That would probably make them pretty despicable…
I imagine the UAW has some lawyers.
People are still fighting and winning a number of cases against the president. People were just released from CECOT, where no one was ever supposed to leave alive.
Do you feel being unionized makes their situation any worse? They seem to feel strongly this will be of numerous advantages, as it was not even a close vote.
We can act pessimistically and do nothing, or we can organize and protect things we care about as hard as we can. These guys are doing something. Everyone online is complaining people aren’t doing anything, but show them a group of people doing something about it, and now those same complainers still find something to complain about.
One more line of protection can’t hurt. I’m surprised there hasn’t been more momentum for workers to band together.
I love me some corvids. I’ve built up my relationships with my local clan of Jays from when I was WFH, and we have a bunch of them in the clinic now, along with a crow and a raven.
They’re all wonderful, but I’m still biased toward the owls and raptors.
It’s not the size of the brain, it’s how you use it! 🤪
All libraries should have a guardian owl of some sort!
Yay! Validation! 😁
It lets me feel like my time here is being useful if I get the upvotes. I try to limit myself to positive/fun/helpful posts or adding additional facts from other articles to someone’s post of I feel more info is needed to get a full story, so if people reply or at least upvote, it feels like it was worth adding my contribution. If my humor/help isn’t needed or wanted in a place, I don’t want to both waste my time and annoy people.
Part of me has wanted this for a long time. The other part of me wants to forget I now know about it.
At least the handful I checked seem to be random, so likely accidental, but I can see this driving me crazy.
The Discussion portion of the paper was pretty interesting. It doesn’t jump to any conclusions, emphasizing not confusing correlation and causation. It discusses some limitations to what they were able to learn and that the severity of the impact is relative to the severity of both the depression and the dementia.
Being on escitalopram has still been one of the best things in my life. I don’t know if I want to experiment with that. If I’m going to be getting dementia, I’m not sure if getting it slightly sooner or later is going to make much of a difference to me. It’s working for what I definitely do have now though.
With the administration discussing getting rid of access to SSRIs, I’ve been trying to build up a few months backup supply, so I don’t want to experiment with finding something new that works as well and potentially be caught with nothing at some point. Life right now is already maxxing out how much depression it can help me deal with. 😱
I still feel grateful for being in the right place to help out some people many years ago.
I was headed to meet some friends down at the shore and right when I got to town , I stopped by McDonald’s to grab something to eat. It was pretty empty, just the employees and 2 groups of kids.
There were 4 young teen girls and 3 or 4 older teen boys, and from the second I walked in, I saw the girls were very uncomfortable and the guys kept trying to get them to leave with them. They were trying to call someone to pick them up but nobody could come get them from what I could tell.
It was very dark out and the town was deserted, so I assumed they were not locals either so they didn’t have many options.
I asked them if they wanted a ride and they quickly said yes and literally jumped in my car as fast as they could. They were a decent number of blocks away, and they were very happy to be back at their rental.
I assume nothing serious would have happened, but it probably would have made the rest of their trip shitty if they had to worry if those guys knew where they were staying. I couldn’t have just ignored them without offering to help though, they all seemed on the verge of tears.
It was a little mind blowing how they’d just jump in a stranger’s car, but I was at least a neutral party when the other guys were already verified creeps. I wasn’t much older, about 20, so not in creepy old man territory yet, so that probably helped. As I said, I still think about how I got to be someone’s champion that day, and it makes me feel good to know I helped out.
I imagine you’re an adult, so you should have a decent radar for picking out some non-creep stranger. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. I didn’t have much time to process the situation until after the girls had left, but seeing someone desperate for help I’d think would have most people willing to accommodate getting you to your car or a better public place. Most people are good and would help out if asked.
Thank you for taking the time to write that out for me. Between this and absGeekNZ’s reply to another person, I feel I really learned a lot.
As someone who basically knows nothing about this but what is in the article, the Maori sound like they have the right idea to me.
The Maori version of the original treaty seems very generous and would make sense to most people how it was written. How anyone would believe the British version was legitimate unless it was signed under coercion or misrepresentation makes zero sense.
Despite the bill being highly likely to fail, many believe that just by allowing the bill to be tabled in Parliament, the coalition government has ignited dangerous social division.
That they are protesting even though the new bill is unlikely to pass seems very smart, given what is going on in other parts of the world and how manipulation by governments works in history. By entertaining it as any form of reasonable proposal, it gives it credence, no matter how small, and each time it is suggested, it will be normalized a bit more, and they will pick up another supporter here and there until they can pass it.
North Carolina is a lovely state, and I hope you’re able to bring a little more sanity back to it!
Thank you for voting, fellow battleground stater! My voter sticker went through the wash, but I cast my vote in PA as soon as I could in October.
Kids really can go through a lot and everyone just acts like we have to move on. In a way that’s true, as it’s the only real option, but people that went through stuff didn’t ask for it.
Me and my brother still don’t get why our parents ever had us. We just got treated like big inconveniences and they fought with each other and just sucked us into their misery.
I’m as far past stuff as possible now, like in your analogy, what’s done is done, and I’m better than I was at my worst, but it really grinds me and my brother that they will never acknowledge they should have been better for us. It’s like, you did this to us, and while you can’t fix it, you’re still blaming us for not being what we could have, but you guys were the ones tearing us down our whole lives.
They get all upset when we go a long time without talking, but I say you didn’t want us when we were there and needed you. Now we’re on our own and you’re upset you don’t have a more inclusive role in our lives? We were forced to live without you, other than being scared of you, be glad you get this much.
Ugh, I forget what my point was, but I liked your story. 😂. Wood shavings gang unite!