Sometimes, but in more official writing (like a bio or even Wikipedia) we’ll use née. Just another word the English language stole from other languages 😂

It’s used for indicating someone’s maiden name usually, just tongue-in-cheek I wager by whoever wrote the title.

I think some of the other commenters pointing out that it reads as a command is probably a big one, but you did a pretty good job of explaining it here (imo). Even just saying to him that you want a heads up of if it’s good or bad and working out a system so you don’t stress would probably be a marked improvement for you, and I would bet it’d be an easy fix.

Found this article from a US gov’t site that talks a lot about this, kind of interesting to read.