I agree with the others but here is some advice when you are happy being alone.

Don’t let the search for a gf become a large part of your life again. I was on all the dating apps and whatnot thinking I was ready to have a gf and I still think I was. But the search started consuming me i spent an hour or two a day reading profiles and going through pictures to try to find the right one. i would read the bios of girls and think about how perfect we would be together and swipe on them. If a girl swipped on me even if she wasn’t up to my standards I would swipe just because… maybe if I give her a chance… it would work.

After maybe a year of that, numerous dates and spiraling depression I realized what it was doing to me. I found a half way decent dating app and canceled all the other subscriptions. Then I just started trading it as a game, 5/10 minutes here or there throughout the week and that was it. I was in a much better place. Fast forward 3 months and my gf actually swiped on me, fast forward a year and we are expecting our first kid.

For me it was also the API issues. I hated the normal client and only used sync. When they shut down the API I left. Unfortunately I feel like my /all is mostly political and the niche communities I follow don’t have enough content. I’ll always be a lurker.

I mean, my first thought was “i wonder if you could drive across that.” But I’m also smart enough to not be the first person to try… maybe the second though

In my career i have gone from Systems Engineer to professional services to Profesional services team lead to Senior Systems administrator to now just Systems administrator. All doing basically the same IT stuff at progressively higher levels other than the team lead part.

When i was looking for my last job i applied for a remote admin job and experienced exactly what you described. I was on the third interview and was asked when i was going to move to the area and if i wanted a relocation allowance as part of the offer. Uhh what? To them a remote admin was an administrator that went to remote sites. What a waste of my time

Windows server license and CALs… don’t forget that extra little cost just because from MS

My problem when i was younger was i didn’t pay attention much to my bank account and would unknowingly overdraft. So i would get hit with 10 over draft fees out of nowhere for buying gas here, a pop there, a drink at a restaurant, just small charges that if i were smart didn’t need and would have just done what you did. It’s the un anticipated overdrafts that killed me when i was younger.

I never meant to imply/ say or in any way hint that therapy is bad. I think everyone can use it.

100%! I am not saying learning these things doesn’t help. But blaming lack of dating in their teens for an incel becoming who they are is not a valid justification in my opinion.

To be honest, dating 20+ is a shit show. The things i learned about dating in my teens didn’t help me dating in my 30’s. Sure they have issues dating but we all do. It’s the willingness to learn, adapt, and care for someone else that i don’t see in incels and that isn’t learned from dating in your teens. They seem to blame outside forces for their issues and not seek to improve themselves

Fair and valid, But i will still support reactions like this to verified instances of attacks on our troops.

To be fair though “countless wars for profit” is an exaggeration. I would agree with “to many wars for profit” one would be to many. I do agree with your sentiment overall.

I don’t care what you say. If you attack an American without provocation you should get this kind of response. Shareholders, businesses, capitalism are not the reason for this.

To my recollection he is past that. So if you are a one and done contract 4/5 years you actually sign up for 8 years total (its in the fine print) . You do your 4/5 active then you go into what is called the inactive reserves. You don’t report to anyone or do anything but during that 3/4 years you can be called up to service again. And that is how they are typically reactivated and then punished. Since this guy is at 12 years total he is past that 8 years and it would be much harder to reactivate him.

I’m not an expert either just saw someone have this happen to them. Also this isn’t saying if he should or should not get punished under the UCMJ just sharing some thoughts on how it could/ could not happen.

Thank you! That makes sense, i appreciate your time and thoroughness of your response!

I would love to know why if you have more info to share

https://www.militarytimes.com/news/your-military/2023/09/20/poor-oversight-leaves-military-barracks-in-dire-condition-report-says/

Is the article that your link refrences. Yeah, i mean i agree with it those are not great mold/broken pipes. But it wasn’t meant to be a 5 star resort either. I spent 2 years stationed at Marine Corps Base Hawaii in a barracks that couldn’t be torn down because it was a historical monument because it had bullet holes from ww2. Shit sucked. None of the barracks i lived in had security cameras back in 2010. We had a couple guys in duty that roamed the area. We didn’t have heaters because we were stained in a area that didn’t need them. I don’t know what the current standards are.

My proof is 5 years of service in the military spending every Thursday cleaning for 4-5 hours for field day inspection where the higher ups go through the barracks on Friday to make sure they are clean.

Hmm, what do you mean by this? And any proof/citations? When i was in the Baracks were old but immaculate.

There is nothing wrong with differing opinions and it is, in my opinion, the lack of the ability to have a civil conversation about those differences that has lead to some divides that we are seeing in the world today.

You cannot argue that eventually a fetus becomes a person. It’s just when that happens that you can argue. It’s it the first, second, third trimester, when it leaves the vaginal canal, or when the umbilical cord is snipped. And maybe fetus isn’t the right term. Eventually the thing growing inside a woman during pregnancy becomes a person. I also have not said in my opinion when that happens as I’m not nearly educated enough in that realm. I just said something along the lines of “seems a little late” or something along those lines in regards to the 5 month abortion time.

I think that if a guy impregnates a girl and splits they should be paying child support during the pregnancy. As for obligations the government has to keep the un born child/fetus/person alive? I don’t know. Thinking about it as i have over the past couple days, I do think abortion should unquestionably be allowed up to the third tri mester. It’s just after that where it starts to get into that gray area for me personally.

As for government forced procedures it would be on them to prove the burden of the “greater good” in my opinion. I cannot see a reason for the government to force a pregnancy through from day 1 to birth “for the greater good”. In my opinion a case could be made to “force/require/mandate” a woman that is the day before her due date to cary the child to term, that case could be the fetus is a person and has a right to life, do i agree with the argument? I don’t know but a case could be made. I would personally be interested in knowing why the woman wants to abort the day before delivery. And it all comes back to when that fetus/child/ whatever you want to call it becomes a person in my opinion.

The government already has the ability to overrule healthcare officials right? They need to be licensed through the state to practice, that’s my understanding at least. As for your private medical data? You keep that as long as you don’t participate in any government medical aid/programs. I would love to see free medical for everyone via government. But you will give up some privacy from the government in that case. Should your medical records be out their for everyone to see? No. But the appropriate programs/entities with reasonable use should have access. For instance if someone wants a new liver, their previous drug/alchohol information should be taken into account. Should government sponsored food stamps have access to your medical history? No.

Just because one entity has access to your data doesn’t mean it should be shared with the world. If the government has access to your medical information potential employers, government agencies or private sector, should not have access to it. Anti Discrimination laws are still in place and should be upheld. Do those laws get violated? Sure, all laws do. But we need laws of some sort in place. If you disagree with them get out and vote, protest, lobby for change.

Driving is a privilege, but i believe education is a right and requirement for every child. Parents can choose private/home/public but the education is a requirement. CPS can remove a child from a home if they are not going to school.

I’d like to clarify, bodily autonomy is a right in my opinion.

I do agree fundamentally with the draft. I do agree that in certain circumstances we can/ should give up rights “for the greater good”. The widening of surveillance after 9/11 for instance. I agree with it in concept but also agree it was abused and went on to long.

I trust the people that we vote for and the checks and balances in place would stop overt abuse of the system. Do i think the system is perfect? No. Do i agree with everything Democrats do in office? No. Do i agree with everything Republicans do in office? No. But the concept i agree with.

If i disagreed with a law vehemently enough, and voting/ trusting the system isn’t enough i would leave the country.

As for punishments, that isn’t for one person to arbitrarily decide and should always be re assessed with the times.

Ps: really making me regret using only mobile for lemmy lmao

Ahh OK. So would i be OK with someone doing something to me or a loved one against my wishes? No, but would i give blood in this case if it was a law, yes. Laws force you to do something potentially against your will.

Someone is driving a car swerving, driving erratically, and when the officer pulls them over the car smells of alchohol. The officer requests they do a breathalyzer or they go to the station for a blood test, refuse that and they lose their ability to drive for a year. They refuse everything, is it fair the officer can force them to not drive and take away their free will for a night throwing you in jail?

If that isn’t the same thing fine. What about required vaccinations before a kid can go to public school? That policy is recently under more scrutiny since covid. For the greater good i think that is a good policy.