• flipht@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    Reproduction is a highly personal choice. As an adopted person, adoption isn’t a stray system, and some people should not adopt.

    There are biochemical things that happen when you carry a baby to term and then immediately interact with it, for both the parent and the kid.

    Adoption is better than many alternatives, but it’s also not easy for everyone to learn to love a child that hormones aren’t helping them love.

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      1 year ago

      As an adopted person, adoption isn’t a stray system, and some people should not adopt.

      As a person who has parents who should have never had children, those same people shouldn’t have biological children either.

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        1 year ago

        While you’re not wrong, “panel that gets to decide the criteria of who is allowed access to procreation” is a bit too “Third Reich” for me, thanks

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      1 year ago

      But do you not see the issue with needing hormonal intervention in order to “learn to love” your child? The hormonal fluctuations people experience after childbird can also cause postpartum depression and cause parents to be apathetic or even resentful towards their children. It’s not something that should be relied on or viewed as an indicator that someone will be a good parent or not. You shouldn’t need hormones to love your kid, biological or not.

      If more focus was put towards the foster system then effort could be put towards making sure the right people get to adopt the right kids more reliably. There are lots of bio parents who never should have had kids, so that is far from something exclusive to adoptive parents.