Shin (14), a middle school student in Daegu has been addicted to gaming for years. He stayed up all night in his room playing games. He was always late for school, and his friends teased him, calling a “game otaku(maniac)”. Shin blamed himself for being “someone unnecessary.” Late last year, he was diagnosed with severe depression and tried to be admitted to a psychiatric ward at a university hospital, but there were no vacancies, and he was only admitted this month.
“The 30 closed wards at Severance Hospital, which used to house adult schizophrenia patients, are now filled with teens and 20s,” Shin Yee-jin, a professor of child and adolescent psychiatry at Severance Hospital, said on Jan. 29. “Most of them have become so depressed that they have attempted self-harm and suicide.”
The number of teens and 20s suffering from depression, self-harm and other mental illnesses is on the rise. According to the National Health Insurance Corporation, there were 13,303 psychiatric hospitalizations for teens and 20s in 2017, or 14.6% of all patients. But last year, the number rose to 16,819 (22.2%), an increase of nearly 10 percentage points in five years.
Almost anything can be addictive, but some things are explicitly designed to be addictive. I don’t think that young kids are capable of regulating their gaming addiction. Someone needs to intervene, most likely the parents.
Games have become so dialed in on pressing all kinds of dopamine buttons, a lot of adults can’t regulate their gaming habits.
There’s a lot of exploitative mechanics that have no point beyond fiddling with people’s hind brains that could be outlawed at a governmental level.
Beyond that, I agree, parents need to stay on top of their kids, as they always have. But video games along with tech in general has become a way to make a kid keep to themselves for hours, so they don’t bother you, and a lot of parents are taking this easy way out, at the expense of the development of the child.
Most of the people in my circles are internet refugees. Practically raised by the internet, parents left them alone on the computer as long as they were quiet.
It’s honestly just actual child neglect. Tying up your kid in the basement also stops them from complaining. A pacified kid isn’t automatically a healthy kid.
Yeah I completely agree. Most of these people have serious issues that they will suffer with for life. Just because it was bad to interact with their folks.
For my generation, it was mostly TV. Same for Xers and Boomers, though they were also allowed to roam with no adult supervision. The habit of neglecting children is ingrained in our society, and computers are just the newest method.
Yeah l think, honestly, one of the biggest issues we have is society giving less time to children and letting the digital babysitters get more and more control.
It takes a village to raise a kid but no one is allowed to tell anyone that they are wrong anymore or hold a consistent view of reality. And it’s sooo easy to just put a kid in front of a screen.
Parents don’t want to “give up their lives” to raise kids anymore and need them to be quiet or decoration. It’s just getting worse.
You act like ‘children should be seen and not heard’ was in the distant past.
And yet they were also expected to participate in what their parents were doing and that was in social settings which meant being around and not disruptive.
Which like has its own issues but at least they weren’t handed the talking screen and headphones and told to catch up later. There has always been neglectful parents but there is a difference.
IMO, It’s not all video games that are addictive. It’s typically the online multiplayer ones that are deliberately designed to be addictive. Those need heavily regulated.
Notice nobody is addicted to Mario Wonder, but many people are addicted to say Overwatch.
It’s any game with microtransactions, in-game currencies, or generally rewards you can grind for. Such games are literally Skinner boxes.
Who says the gaming addiction is the cause of their depression? It could be a symptom.
Addiction is often a symptom of depression.
Completely agree and I’m scared for my kids. I tried screen limits on their devices, but my wife just lets them have more time anyway. I’ve said that they need to find something else to do. So then I get asked “what are they going to do?” or told “then you need to come up with something for them to do”. Isn’t part of growing up developing problem-solving skills and being creative? If I was bored as a kid I looked around or thought about what else I could do and always had options. My wife has basically stripped any options from them by placing the burden all on me and blaming me. I’ve laid out options to her like going outside to play or playing with their toys that they never touch anymore. I’ve even told her that they should have play dates and there’s always an excuse as to why those are not viable options. Not sure what else I can do.
I’m fighting a similar parenting battle myself, currently. I’m a sole parent, tho. So I’m just fighting with myself. I’m trying to set limits for my kids, but I’m just not able to enforce them. I have my grandson living with me in kinship care, and he is extremely high needs, my 15yo is high needs, so my 12 yo gets no attention and has slipped into device addiction, I set limits, very minimal limits, mind you, because I’m trying to weeny her down, she still sneaks around them, then I take them away entirely. I took them away for a month, after warning her about 10 times that I would if I caught her again. She was absolutely fine after a week. Maybe make your partner a bet, lol. Is your partner the one at home with them mostly? Or do you both work long hours?
I work pretty much a 40 hour week hybrid. I go in to the office about 3 days a week with about a 1.5 hour round trip commute. I’m usually home just after my youngest gets home from school and at the same time my oldest gets home. So we’re pretty much all home at the same time. Wife is a stay at home mom by choice, but did just start college. I think it’s more that she literally thinks there isn’t anything else for them to do. Both my kids are on the spectrum, both boys. 15 yr old is high functioning and a straight A student, but literally sits on his computer watching youtube or playing games from the moment he gets home from school until about 8-9 at night, then gets off his PC to watch youtube on his phone for like another 30-60 minutes. My youngest is 9 and lower functioning, has outbursts (stomps, throws things, breaks things) when he doesn’t get his way, and hoarding issues. The good thing is that my youngest tends to get bored with screens more than my oldest and will somewhat self regulate in that department. I’m more concerned about my oldest because he could live a completely normal life, but when his screen time is like 5-6 hours on school days and like 12-14 hours on non-school days, it’s concerning. He has no friends in or out of school. We’ve tried to help him along in that department, he even had some phone numbers of other kids in some of his classes, but will never talk to them. If they’d text him, he’d give 1 or 2 word responses and that’s the end. Even had some girls crush on him, but no reaction. Youtube is that kid’s life and even though he is so smart, I have a feeling he’s going to throw his talents away because he’d rather just sit in front of Youtube. We can offer to do things together or go out to do things and they both would rather just sit there.