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Cake day: June 21st, 2023

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  • I’m American but live outside the US in a developing country.

    Here, the situation on the roads is wildly unstandardized. Every turn, road sign, curb size, lane width, bridge height, traffic signal duration, etc may or may not be consistent with anything else. Not to mention drivers going the wrong way, motorcycles on the sidewalks, people stopping in the road and more.

    Because of the weirdness drivers know they have to pay attention or else death and injury awaits.

    The fact that the 11’ 8" bridge still takes so many casualties suggests drivers confidently think they can drive all over the USA and the road is engineered to an exacting standard. Except for this one bridge.

    I think it’s actually time for the city to just properly fix this bridge and bring it up to standard.




  • Learning how to do small talk will improve your social, economic, and relationship opportunities in countless ways.

    Asking people questions about themselves makes them think of you as likable.

    Remember the acronym f o r d: Family Occupation Recreation Dreams

    Small talk can be learned and getting in some more practice might make it bearable, perhaps even enjoyable.

    When you are running out of topics keep the acronym above in mind and ask a question related to one of those topics. Something like this example:

    Q: So, have you always lived in (wherever you are)?

    However they reply, follow up with it positive and encouraging response such as: “ah you’re a long timer. I thought there weren’t too many of us left!” and then go right into a follow up Q also related to the acronym but now attached to the new information you have such as: is your family from this area too? What brought you here initially? What do you do for work? Hey since you’ve been here so long, what do you think about (insert local drama that’s been in the news).

    The goal isn’t to interrogate, but to smoothly and rapidly sort through topics until you find commonalities. Then you can lift off and the conversation will feel very natural and easy.

    I heard about this 20 some years ago and have used it at the start and end of business meetings, on first dates, with strangers, and heck sometimes even with my friends if we’re catching up and I want to cover things that are core to them.









  • Having electric stability issues this week in Bangkok - several 2-3 hour outages, which are too long for a UPS to cover the gap. I have several mid range but older PCs running docker, virtualbox, etc for various things including a postfix server for the family email, immich, QBittorrent, pihole, paperless, huly, postiz, a Minecraft bedrock server, a flightradar24 ads-b collector, and a variety of other homegrown projects.

    Thinking about getting some or most of this over to a service like hetzner, perhaps even splurging on a baremetal dedicated system.

    Recently I’ve been reading about/trying to learn qemu and proxmox, but don’t understand them yet. Is that where it’s at for managing a bunch of your own VMs? Or kubernetes/k8s?

    I’ve been a little out of the loop for a few years and of course coming back up to speed IT wise judge take weeks. Looking for recommendations on offloading my home stuff to a cloud that I control.