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don’t keep sweatin’ what I do 'cause I’m gonna be just fine

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Cake day: December 19th, 2023

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  • I go grocery shopping once a week, and I’m buying just for two adults. Most things I get at Aldi, and some things at Giant if I don’t like the Aldi version, or Aldi doesn’t sell it. I do make a list ahead of time, but I buy mostly the same things every week.

    A typical aldi trip includes bananas, berries (rasp or blue usually), avocados, some kind of fresh green veg for dinner (typically spinach, asparagus, or green beans), bread, jaffa cakes, coffee, low-fat cheese, laundry detergent & fabric softener, windex, dishwasher pods, toilet paper, canned fire-roasted tomatoes (soooo many easy recipes with these!), sparkling water, eggs, egg whites, almond milk, yogurt, and pierogies. Then I typically get my meat at Giant (most of Aldi’s meat is pretty gnarly), plus things like toothpaste, evaporated milk, sugar packets, paper towels, canned lentils (my Aldi doesn’t carry these???), and a little bouquet of flowers. And then some random things I buy on Amazon, like my tea (yorkshire gold), farro, protein powder, low-fodmap ingredients, etc.

    I spend about $150 a week unless I’m out of something expensive like paper towels.



  • I’m late Gen X. When we were younger, women shaving at least the lips and bikini line, plus trimming down the rest, was normal. I don’t think a lot of women my age went fully hairless most of the time, but having a brazilian now and again was pretty normal. Men either didn’t do any grooming or trimmed things down a bit, but didn’t generally go fully hairless. As we got older more hair crept back in. I guess to me, hairlessness is associated with kids (by which i mean like 18 year olds to mid-twenties - people way too young for me to fuck at this point), and I think hair is sexy. I don’t think I’d do a brazilian at this point - I prefer at least some hair. I do still prefer the lips and bikini line to be bare, but that entails annoying upkeep and itchy stubble, so I usually only do it every other week and let it grow in a bit.

    I guess what we find attractive changes as we age.


  • Nobody’s going to want to be around you if you’re volatile and hurtful. And “I can’t help it” is a thin excuse. These are things you absolutely could control, you just have to try.

    You sound young. Get control of yourself and develop some empathy. And while you’re at it, do something about your internalized misogyny. These two passages ought to create some cognitive dissonance for you:

    Women also piss me off more than men do, so I hang out more with them because I feel like they get me and aren’t as bitchy.

    I think women should be the best versions of themselves :) [I believe this is why society is so hard on women as a whole]








  • For a simple example: my mother is Catholic and until Trump came along, a lifelong single-issue Republican voter who always said she would be a Democrat if it weren’t for abortion. She attends church in an extremely progressive, famously LGBTQ-friendly town.

    There’s a transwoman who attends her church (let’s call her Rita). This lady is probably in her mid-50s to mid-60s and has been a fixture at the church for at least 5 years. My mom has been in choir and bible study groups with her for years now. She still just can’t see Rita as a woman. Treats her politely but behind her back refuses to call her “she” and says she’s a “man in a dress”.

    She’s really offended that Rita uses the ladies’ room. I’ve asked her why and she can’t articulate it, she just feels like it’s an invasion of her privacy, because men don’t belong in the ladies’ room. And when I point out that Rita isn’t a man, she just rolls her eyes. I’ve asked her if she’s worried that Rita is in there for predatory purposes and she admits that she doesn’t think Rita intends any harm. I’ve asked her how she’d feel if she were forced to use the men’s room and she says “but that’s different!”

    My mom prides herself in being a moral person, and still can’t manage to get past her bigotry to see Rita as a woman. There are just too many mental blockades against it. But since she thinks she’s so highly moral, she thinks she must be correct in this situation. It excuses her from finding empathy and bettering her attitude toward trans folks.

    My longwinded point is that when people who consider themselves highly moral are bigoted, there’s almost zero chance of getting through to them. And I think a lot of the people who are bigoted against trans folks feel that morality is on their side and being trans is morally deviant, so they think they’re justified in their prejudice.