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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • Is there ongoing harm flowing from any of it? That would be my focus otherwise its sort of just ruminating. Life is hard and complicated and its better served ensuring there’s not ongoing harm and appropriate boundaries are set and ultimately that past misdeeds be addressed as appropriateto ensure that and then closed.

    If you think he’s bottom line done right by you + you enjoy him being in your life, close the matters and enjoy him. Be an example for him but not like patronizingly, tacitly you’ve learned from his mistakes and demonstrate he is mutually loved and cherished by you

    Remember: you will fuck up eventually too, no way to know when or how but you will and if your dad seems like he would stick around and support you even when it does or as he already does in the context of the otherwise machismo eastern european cultural attitudes, thats the kind of person you want to have in your corner.