Digitalprimate

Years ago we had a hedgehog wander into garden just at dusk. My cat, who was always very curious, followed the hedgehog around for about 45 minutes as it rooted around for things. The hedgehog did not care at all when my cat sniffed him and (gently) touched him/her with his paws. They do not care.

Doing the lord’s work here.

FWIW, I have multiple things I should go to in the USA coming up, and neither I nor my family are willing to risk it. My two (young adult) children and I have dual USA - EU country citizenship. My wife had a green card when she lived with me in NYC for over a decade, but turned it in when we moved back long ago. These facts (let alone what my posting history is like) are just too much for us. We won’t risk it.

It’s kind of like a plane crash: very unlikely to happen but you are equally unlikely to walk away unhurt.

That’s enough internet for today.

Yeah I saw this over on Mastodon, and there were a lot of stats folks questioning the methodology. I’m not qualified to do that, but my sons are Zoomers as are all their male friends, and they are all good feminists. This is in NW Europe, so might be a bit biased.

The team I manage are Millennials and Gen Z (I’m a slightly older Xer, born a couple of weeks before Kurt Cobain).

Here is a problem some folks might not have considered that doesn’t really have anything to do with the “nature” of the younger generations. I fight very hard for flexible hours, better compensation, scheduling flexibility, etc. I do not tell my folks how to do something, I leave that to them, and they’ll generally find a better way than the way I initially imagined. Someone needs a day off or to come in/leave at a different time or to WFH, I never ask why.

And generally our CEO has given me what I want, and I can give my people what they want. Admittedly, this is in part due to the nature of what my team does and the visible quality of our work (not IT, btw). So far so good.

The problem is other managers. Other Xers and a couple of Boomers. They see my department getting all this stuff, and they start getting paranoid their departments (or other companies; we are a conglomerate) will start demanding the same. And they do not understand WFH, worse they are afraid of it. Likewise with all the QoL and work/life balance stuff. And if their people found out about the raises my people got, oh boy would that be a problem for the other managers.

That’s often where the real fight inside companies is, between managers vying with each to determine which way the company will go, or to, at least, to keep their part of it a nice ecosystem to work in. Fear of change is a big factor.

“If you saw someone stealing food, no you didn’t.”

Broadcasting “no contact Israel” or similar is novel. Broadcasting “armed guards aboard” has been going on for at least a decade.

Totally agree about Obama’s well intentioned but ultimately disastrous attempt to reach across the aisle. He had two miraculous years to change it all, and blew it on trying to reconcile two utterly incompatible views of what America should be. Noble, but in the end foolish.

If you are right, it won’t really matter who takes the blame. Part of me thinks you are right, but the better part of me is still fighting.

Long story short, I don’t know that I consider Biden a pragmatic alternative at this point.

I get you, and you’re not wrong with the rest of what you wrote. The R’s have had a coherent game plan since Nixon and executed on it well enough (and had enough lucky accidents) to engineer exactly this kind of election.

The choice is whether or not the US continues as a representative democracy. This time it’s no hyperbole; it’s a truly binary decision for the future. And I’m afraid unless the D’s grow a real backbone, every election for the foreseeable future is going to be a response to an existential threat.

But the R’s cannot win. On this we can all agree.

I forgave his sins and allowed myself to miss him. The magpies in my back garden agreed with this.

Me either but as a CIS Het dude, I may be unlikely to notice it. Can anyone tell me more? Serious question, want to be part of the solution here.

The author is on Mastodon, and I just sent her a message about this Lemmy post. So, I suppose we’ll see.

I personally think you are wrong since the original source is reputable. BUT I too find it a bit odd no one else seems to have picked up on this sensational piece.

If nothing else, perhaps we can use your doubt to raise awareness of this story.

Very helpful, saved me time while at work, thanks!

I’m curious for a friend (really!) I see we can get this OTC in a cream or other topical application format, but the article references a pill.

Generally speaking one molecule is not efficacious a both topical and oral routes - any idea about this one?

Just a minor but important point: being neurodivergent is not a “mental health disorder.”

I do agree it plays a role in boys becoming incels, but it’s not in the same category as depression or anxiety disorders.

Edit for the replies I got: I strongly believe our society needs to stop looking at neurodivergent people as somehow “wrong” or “messed up.” Your brain is your brain just like your skin color is your skin color, and no should be discriminated against for either. In this case, it really is society that needs change, not the individual. It’s uncomfortable or even traumatic for the individual because of how other people react to them, not because of who they fundamentally are. Having to Face all the time, being forced into far too stimulating situations, having very few people understand your needs while at the same time foisting their expectations on you is exhausting. And it shouldn’t have to be this way.

Have an upvote, but I don’t really agree with you. Here in the Netherlands about the time my two boys entered elementary school the government took a look at the stats and realized that boys over the last decade had poorer outcomes post secondary education than girls. So, they (to decidedly mixed success) added some more and more frequent physical activity including something that translates to rock and water, which is kinda hard to explain, but is a way to use physical exercise to teach boundaries. You can see similar stats regarding differences in outcomes for men and women in university graduation rates in America and the UK.

The point I’m trying to make is that something in our systems changed, and to some it appears to be a kind of zero sum game (which I do not believe it is or has to be). I mean sure there is a chance that producing better outcomes for girls, which is great, has had some negative effect on boys; the problem is we cannot tell if the two are related, outside of some inherent gross physical differences in size, strength etc. Thus, the incels immediately jumped to the conclusion that its “teh Femmminizzzz.”

And I do agree with the OP of this sub-thread that it is a very difficult process to realize your privilege, to see beyond it and then through someone else’s eyes. Unless you are lucky and either hit just the right place to start researching or have friends who can help, if you didn’t internalize your privilege at an early age, it’s a long ass road. Took me a good decade, and most weeks I come across something I still hadn’t learned.

I’ve brought both my boys up to understand exactly how privileged they are to have been born white, with a dick, straight, and in a wealthy W European country. I see many fathers and mothers here in NL have done the same. The kids these days really are all right. So I have real hope the Zoomers by and large and the incel subculture notwithstanding will simply never internalize the hateful points of view we Xers had to brute force our way out of.

Thank you for this good perspective.

NL checking in here, under the circumstances you describe you are all cool and the gang. Do not ride on the sidewalk!

If by sea planes they meant Ekranoplans, I’d kinda be down for that (Editor: no, he wouldn’t really).