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  • Seems like a sociopathic trait. To try and get simulated attention for themselves. Nevertheless, it might work better for them the other way around. Using a smaller community on Lemmy as a ‘test’ environment and then plagiarizing a comment to get Reddit Karma. Or a post for that matter. I am pretty sure that there are people that might do this. There probably is a lot of mods on Lemmy that might tip off mods on Reddit for this very reason.

    I will admit, if I need help for an answer to a question someone is asking, I DO Google and in those results there, which are often reddit, find someone who has already asked and answered said question, so I will just paraphrase them lol.

    Not jokes but useful things and TOMT searches. Why reinvent the wheel?



  • Best advice I have received: make a small change in any direction that would have a positive outcome if you succeeded. Set a goal, any goal, professionally, personally, socially etc. make it specific, measurable, and write down your experience. Break it into steps and if a step is too hard break that step into smaller ones.

    There can be many mental health disorders that are functional illnesses. Many with chronic illness can actually live a regular life and no one would know what they have going on. It doesn’t mean it is not serious or debilitating. Mild depression is a thing, so is mild bipolar, mild schizophrenia or high functioning.

    That being said the phenomenon you are describing is common nowadays without it being a mental illness. I haven’t met someone who hasn’t at least once in their life questioned their choices or felt lost about what to do next or how to do it.

    There are many jobs you can do with a bachelor’s in any major. Most are office based. Some can be more hands on.

    That being said not all comparisons are a thief of joy. There is a concept in DBT called the ACCEPTS acronym. One of the Cs is Comparison. But a positive one. For you. Compare yourself to someone in a lesser or more distressing situation. Or to a time when you, yourself were in a worse rut, if possible. This is also a form of cognitive reframing.

    38 is still young. Plus 30s and 40s are where a midlife crisis can occur. Don’t go to clubs for friends unless you already know someone there. Try more neutral settings like a small class, group, volunteering, or a place where you would be alongside people with a common goal or interest. A lot more potential to find not so good connections in a bar or a club.

    I agree it is hard to connect especially being an introvert myself. But you don’t need friends you just need one friend. There isn’t one set way to do it. Smaller settings with less people work and more opportunities to connect. Less social competition. Sometimes it is just a conversation with a neighbor that sparks something you might have in common. Then you or them invites the other to do something or show another something etc. It happens organically, gradually and unexpectedly.


  • Theo@lemmy.worldtopics@lemmy.worldGeorgia Aquarium [OC]
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    Some of them turn into gifs on the hosting platform but you have to search google and create an account. Imgur makes you give a phone number so I didn’t make an account with them. I found pxlmo.com which only requires a name, email to make one that you can just make up and use a dedicated email if you wanna stay private. Pxlmo has a 20mb file size limit for videos. You can Google a site that lets you upload a video and compress it if it is too long. Then you just copy the link and add it to the description of your post. It will open in the in-app player on some of the Lemmy supported apps. I use Boost for Lemmy but usually you can’t embed them. Lemmy on a browser will probably open a new tab. The reason I use image/video hosting is to remain anonymous because my real name is on my YouTube.


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    I bet the Atlanta one is way bigger than Camden. I went to Jersey in 2020. Empty during Covid.

    Love the Jellies!

    (If you post your video to an image hosting site like imgur, or there are some alternatives. If there is a video size limit, use an online file compressor to reduce file size.)



  • Best thing I did was browse reddit with a new account without participating. Just enjoying certain content. I deleted my old and made a private email and new account and subbed to the ones I was but no posting or comments just upvote/down ote and reading, watching clicking links etc. I realized I spent too much time conversing and not enough time enjoying some of the content. Less people on Lemmy and can actually get responses to good convos and post feedback. I wish you could follow accounts and specific posts here though.