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Cake day: June 2nd, 2024

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  • I don’t think it’s wrong for you to want a relationship with your dad, but it is weird that you kind of brush over the cheating. Your father had an affair, does that not affect you? You don’t even look at him a little different? Do you not understand why your mom is lashing out or why she’s as hurt as she is? Again, I do not think her request is reasonable, but this woman, from what I’m getting from the post, was cheated on, publicly enough that it was a big scandal, lost her husband, her home, and her son. While everyone is having a great time with the mistress, she’s seemingly alone with no one in her corner telling her how what she went through was hurtful and offering her some comfort. You’re like, “he’s my best friend, so I don’t really care, him cheating on my mother didn’t change anything to me, it’s not like he cheated on me.”

    Relationships are complicated. I don’t know what your relationship with your mom is, but if she wasn’t abusive and you do have some affection for her (even if she isn’t your best friend), I would talk to her. Both of you should explain how you’re feeling. Maybe she wants you with her because she thinks you like being around her as much as she likes being around you, maybe she thinks you two are closer than you actually are, or maybe she’s nuts and is making one final attempt to control. But your mom as seemingly lost everything important to her by putting her foot down against cheating while everyone is like, “finally, she’s gone. Just swap her out with a younger version.” I don’t know a lot of people who wouldn’t be hurt by that.






  • Insurance:

    For this “industry,” it varies wildly by department and position. The lower your are (entry level, etc.) the worse it’s going to be. People are always in accidents, so you’ll be working customer service on nightmare mode. No real meetings, maybe a “huddle,” and then back to work.

    I’ve moved up slightly and it is night and day. I get work/claims, but I’m usually done by noon, and that’s with me fucking around (on my phone, messing with the cat, chores, etc.). The projects are PowerPoints and excel sheets in my area, which are simple. Since I’m at home, when I’m done, I usually just keep myself online and work on crafts. If I’m extra bold, I’ll take the laptop downstairs and play a game. The more specialized you get, the less work you have.











  • Yes. I always use them. I hate when people don’t. Oh, so you needed to come over? I would have slowed down if you told me. What are you slowing down for? Move- Oh. You’re turning. Wish I would have known that. Dang, I need to pull out and make this turn. Let me wait until that car passes… Oh, they’re turning.

    It’s such a small thing that makes driving safer for you and the people around you.





  • Or just grow up, admit you were wrong, and do something about it. “It’ll make them feel bad!” Good, they should feel bad. They voted for an openly hostile, dumb, Russian bootlicker of a president. I just don’t get this post that keeps being reposted and why coming together means forgetting how we got here.

    Imagine an abusive wife trying to come back to her husband because she didn’t realize she signed a prenup and wants to say she was lied to about leaving now that life is hard. Like, no, not going to take any responsibility for my temper/violence, or even say I’m going to change, let’s just pretend I didn’t know that punching you in the face was gonna leave a black eye because I didn’t think it would hurt my hand.